I would put myself in the “very dominant older” category, and I think others made some good points. But from what some subs I’ve known have told me, and my own experience with people in general, it’s worth pointing out that red flags can be hidden, and it’s much easier to say the right things than it is to act the right way. If complete anonymity is one of your turn ons then you’re always going to have to accept a higher element of risk, especially if part of the turn on for you is to jump straight into the deep end with someone who hasn’t earned your trust. If that’s the case, i should also tell you that some fantasies are better when they aren’t made a reality, or are made reality in a roleplay situation. To me, part of the satisfaction of being the dominant one is “training” a sub, which is more of a longer term process. If you want to know more about that feel free to DM. If that’s not your thing, then be careful out there, and consider only making dates just after you’ve made yourself cum and you’re thinking more clearly. All the best.