What happened to OP was terrible for a number of reasons, she got fired, she got slut shamed, her parents clearly reacted entirely inappropriately, she lost her best friend, and her ex turned out to be a complete piece of shit. Somehow, the first thing that gets pointed out is that she was "raped"?

Sounds like two teenagers were messing around naked, and one of them tried to initiate sex. As soon as she declined, he stopped. He then apologized profusely. Keep in mind that both of these people are like 17 years old and hormonal as hell making out naked, but no the guy is a rapist and he should be thrown in jail.

OP, you have already stated that you don'tt believe you were raped, but the group think in this thread of course goes back to the old standby- THERAPY. Why should you should go to therapy and invest money into creating a whole false set of neuroses around being a rape victim? Should you be expected to hold on to this "trauma" for the rest of your life? Or would it not be more productive for you to manage this situation on the terms that you (and reality) have already defined- namely that you were not a victim of rape?

It appears that there are some people in this thread whose categorical imperative it is to turn every single sexual encounter without a signed and notarized sex contract into a capital rape case. If I were you OP, I would ignore them. There is enough terrible shit going on in your life that strangers on the internet don't need to try to convince you you are a rape victim.

OP, I am so sorry that all of this shit happened to you, but your gut feeling is correct- you weren't raped. Pretty sure if you were, you would know it.