You have a child but you're out every weekend at the bar and you work a regular barista job. Where are you getting all this money for babysitters, drinks, and cover charges? Who is watching your kid? At first I'm usually just impressed, must be nice. I guess I don't have as good a support system as many because I don't have a single person who I could just drop my kid off for free for the night to go "to an orgy and do drugs", that's a literal quote from a woman I know. NOT a friend, but a woman I know. She was a friend of a friend and she was going through a rough divorce, I offered to watch her kid (so she could go to court), she dropped him off at my house over night and when I asked what she was up to she literally said "to an orgy to do drugs." Like... really? I'm not even anti-drugs or anti-free sex or whatever. You do you, it's just, this kid doesn't even know me and he's kind of emotionally traumatized. Do you just drop him off at randoms all the time to do things this frivolous? About two or three times a year I convince one of my family members to watch my two year old for a few hours (never overnight) while I go do something, so it better be something good!

I've just come to realize that most of the women I know who do this must be grossly irresponsible and highly cared for.