Oof, I feel this. I'm in my early 20s and still live with my mom while I go to school. I clean the dishes, empty the dishwasher, take out the garbage, bring in groceries from the car, take my grandma on errands, mow the lawn/blow the leaves/shovel the snow, vacuum/sweep, clean the kitchen after she cooks, sometimes make dinner, feed the dogs and cat, keep the litter box clean, clean the bathroom, do my own laundry, keep my room clean, and generally I'm tasked to make things look tidy.

My mom pays for insurance, groceries, bills, and occasionally gas. Grants cover my tuition, I pay for my phone, and anything I need for school. It makes sense that I would be expected to do chores in the house but, I feel that I'm treated more as a maid than a daughter. What pisses me off is if I push any of my chores to the weekend, because god forbid I'm tired after school despite being young, then my mom guilts the shit out of me basically saying I'm not grateful for all she does for me.

What pisses me off even more is that she doesn't do anything if I'm out of the house. I was gone for almost three weeks recently and all she managed to do was the dishes. No vacuuming, no taking out the trash, no tidying up, and she barely cleaned the cat box and left the bagged up waste sitting in my waste basket (the cat box is in my room) so that was fun coming home back to.

She'll complain about the clutter in our house and in her room but, doesn't do anything about it. She'll even say that I don't do anything and she has to do everything.

I love my mom but, she needs to wake the fuck up and realize that she needs to put effort into cleaning up after herself and not put all the responsibility on other people.