u/jencola, Kai is replying to

|My parents and friends asked why I didn't date more Chinese men, and my answer was always simple. It's not that I don't want to date Chinese men, it's that my values aligned better with more white men than Chinese.

|In a relationship I want to be viewed as an equal, with my own voice and goals. I am educated, run my own business, and live alone in my own house. I am independence and want a man who respects me for who I am, supports me for our future, and understands that my past shaped me but does not define me. In general, I've found that Caucasian men aligned better with my values. In my own personal experience, Asian men tend to be too dependent on their mothers, don't have any living alone experience, have self-esteem issues when they know how much money I make, and/or are too controlling and jealous when I'm just living my life.

|I hate to make generalizations but a LOT of Asian guys feel like that and will say what your EX-bf said. It's disgusting.

I agree that how the guy in the (likely fake) story behaved was

However, before you go creating narratives about all asian guys, have you realized that your counterparts grew up in the same environment and have the same values as you? Maybe your own beliefs about asian guys came not from reality but from sources of racism, and your own internalized anti-asian hatred?