Location: Bay Area - WMAF Capital of the world
Generation: Late Millennials (it isn't until we get to younger Millennials and Gen Z and Generation Alpha do AMAF and AMXF stabilizes). Late Millennials are Millennials in the mid to late 30s, those born in the 1980s and grew up with non-existent to bad representation of Asian men. Kpop didn't become popular until they were out of college.
Class: I will make the assumption these are middle class girls as the tendency for middle class minority girl is to go out of their way to climb the social ladder. San Francisco has individuals who make an extraordinary amount of money because of Silicon Valley, and with gender disparity, females have a lot in dating power and marriage power.
Asian females in the Bay Area are already economically successful with degrees, all they need is a partner who can make millions of dollar. If they are economically successful, they would want to climb the social ladder and assimilate. The best way is to seek out a white male to assimilate into America, it doesn't matter if the guy is rich or not, because after all, she is the breadwinner in the relationship, he is just the ticket into those wealthy white lifestyle and a trophy to show to her WMAF AF friends.
Summary: An WMAF AF will seek out a WM not to just climb the money ladder, but also the social ladder. Disciple stated that middle class Asian American guys have the most trouble because their gender counterpart are ruthless in social markers.
This machine-like mindset that these females exhibit bothers not just AM, but nearly everyone with conscious. If you were able to catch onto the pattern, I am sure everyone knows, but nobody wants to state the obvious.
Although a lot of guys on this subreddit will take pleasure in rejecting a bananarang (a WMAF AF who go after AM for economic reasons because WM are tired of them), most AF will just keep going after WM because it is what they are accustomed to growing up, old habits die hard, unless they overhaul their entire lifestyle, which is impossible to do.
I also think you are bothered because you are married to an AM and your friends saying they have no attraction to Asian men is subconsciously shitting on you, and you feel offended by it. But honestly, your friend who has a boyfriend who treat her like a high school girlfriend sounds like a trainwreck.