Oh boy. Well I was with a girl for almost a decade. Lived together, and we were in the middle of planning our wedding. One Friday this last summer I came home, we were going to go on a double date with some friends. I called her on my way home from work like always, because I just enjoyed talking to her even though it was only a few minutes before I saw her anyway. She didn't answer and I didn't think much of it.
I came home, played with our cat, thought it was weird she wasn't home yet but patiently waited before our plans, and then I saw a letter. I picked it up. It hardly said anything. Just that she loves me more than anything in her life but she has to break up with me. That was it. It almost destroyed me. Almost.
I still have no idea why she left, we haven't spoken, and she avoided talking to me even when I was trying to reach out to find out why. In the end I got nowhere reaching out,and one day she texted me saying she was prepared to talk and tell me everything. I told her it didn't matter anymore, I was hurt as deep as I possibly could've been, and there was no point in us talking anymore. So that's story 1 about the one that got away and I don't know why. Kinda leads into story 2.
So since that time I couldn't help but be changed by the experience. I moved, traveled, changed careers, all that. And then one night, this girl who I was slowly becoming attracted to made a move on me. Funny thing is she is actually the girl who was gonna join us on the double date with her long term boyfriend. She still had a boyfriend, but she said some deep meaningful things to me that meant a lot, and we hooked up. It felt good to be vulnerable like that again with someone.
Then she told me that she couldn't leave her boyfriend for me, and it set me back. Yet I still put her on a pedestal. I knew that somehow, her and I would end up together. I was frustrated and angry, seems like everyone gets what they want besides me. What's funny is she got a little drunk and we were talking about relationships and whatnot. I brought up what had happened between us and she told me she knew I was in a lot of pain from the demise of my previous relationship, and used that pain to do whatever she could you "get in my pants." She then told me I was a pussy for taking things so hard after my last relationship crumbled. I saw a totally different side to this girl that I was infatuated with and it destroyed all desire I had for her. She turned out to be so ugly on the inside and so cold-hearted. I try to stay as far away from her as possible now.
TL;DR: Long relationship ended abruptly via letter and confusion, finally gained enough trust to reach out and connect with another person who I thought the world of who in turn admitted to using my pain and grief to cheat on her boyfriend and get in my pants.
I don't understand women.