i can relate.

I'm not even particular "feminine" or have any gay stereotypes in my behavior.

I just don't like sports. I mean - i played soccer, football, basketall, swim team or something or anotehr from the time i was 5 until i was 15. I grew up liking science fiction, fantasy, art, poetry, and .. not that my parents knew - drugs and alcohol. I dated girls all my life - long term serious relationships and flings alike. and my certain members of family still (i'm married with a kid) hint that they think i'm covering something up.

Largely b/c I'm respectful to women, care about women's rights, don't play sports, politically left, like art, ethnic food, craft beer, care about the environment, etc..

it doesn't matter how handy i am around the house (or become). 5 years ago i got muscular as shit at the gym (having a kid ruined that) I was benching 250, deadlifting 300, squatting 325, and running a 5k in just over 24min at 33 years old. I had periods where i wasn't a stranger to strip clubs. Like.. nothing in any direction gets my "man hood" back or apparently my actual orientation b/c of whatever non-normative things i've done. Like it doesn't battle out the fact i wore punk/goth makeup/fingernail polish, had tongue and ear piercings as a youth or drive a hybrid as an adult.

To them it's all a sign I'm queer as hell. (and yes, they're the types to think there's something wrong with that). I'm not a 'real man'.