So my gf gained weight when we were hiding our relationship from her parents and she was in the closet. The anxiety just got to her. So after we moved out she began her weight loss journey and been very successful. Her efforts to get healthy made me want to do the same. I've always been a big girl but I've been more or less happy with how I look.

Our attraction to one another hasn't ever changed though that's the difference I guess. I will always think she's the hottest woman ever even if she got horribly disfigured because I am so in love with her and who she is. She has said the same to me. I feel like anything less, while complety valid, would bring up insecurity within our relationship. Having that support has helped me lose almost 20 pounds so far too.

Our discussions have always been framed around being healthy. We go for walks together and we cook healthy meals together we want to spend the rest of our lives together and being healthy is an important part of living a long life.

My only advice would be to change the way you talk about this with her. Give her lots of time, weight loss doesn't happen overnight and sometimes there are slip ups, but frame it from a health perspective. Encourage her to go to the doctor for a check up. The doctor told me I was Obese. That stung. Maybe it will get through to her. Prepare healthy meals for the week ahead of time and suggest going for walks as a date type activity.