Like babysitters, teachers, family friends, neighbors, tutors?

Yes, those people can be perpetrators as well. No one said they cannot. But on the order of proximity to child, I would argue that a spouse or significant other living in the same home still ranks higher than anything you listed, as such, extra diligence needs to be placed on evaluating the person you are bringing into the home.

Extra diligence does not imply decreased diligence elsewhere. Just, on top of your usually carefulness, BE EXTRA CAREFUL about the person who is going to be living with your kid.

I'm not being obtuse, that's a shitty deflection. You know I'm right, I have no idea why everyone is so bent about it.

What am I deflecting? I already acknowledged that, like you said, you need to be wary of everybody in your child's life. The only thing we disagree on is that I believe the person who is going to be living in your home needs to be extra inspected and for some reason you really disagree with that notion.

The vast majority of child abuse is done by people who have repeated interactions with the child. On top of that, most child abuse cases involve a family member, typically one living in the same household. On top of that, most young girls are abused by a step father.

So knowing all that, why WOULDN'T you be extra diligent about who you choose to fill the role of step father in your young daughter's life?

What's a deflection is you continuing to argue that extra diligence somehow means you literally give no shits about anyone else your child comes into contact with, in order to push some gender agenda that was never called for because no one ever denied that women can sexually abuse children.