I recently went through what you are going through. I also needed an authoritative server, but for different type of game than you.
While trying to decide, I picked up uLink's trial, just to get my hands dirty.
I eventually settled on Bolt. I'm very happy I did so. It is very solid and makes a lot of sense once you start really figuring it out. I'm only a week or so in, so I'm still figuring stuff out, but I've been very happy so far. It was not long before I had a working prototype up and running.
Now, that said, there are a few things to know.
Anyway, hope this helps in your evaluation of the options.