YTA as someone with a deformity that I can hide it’s really hard for me to speak up about. I CAN wear a crop top but anything with cleavage is out of the question. The amount of people that told me I should wear bikinis etc killed me inside growing up because I felt disgusting. I quit the swim team because of my deformity.

I NEVER told anyone what my deformity was until I was 18 (it’s my ribcage so it made me feel unattractive and not feminine enough). I cried so much over it growing up because it felt like I was lucky that no one could see it but it tormented me that I couldn’t wear cute things other girls wear and the thought of ever being intimate with someone horrified me. The deformity made me hate every aspect of my body eventually until I got support.

She might have body dysmorphia but I don’t think it’s ok to kick her out. I know what it feels like to hate your entire body and have others think “it’s not a big deal”. We are all trying to heal.