NTA. For everyone who said he blindsided her and gave a shitty response- nah. Scars and deformities are normal, & not something to gawk at which is exactly what she did. She made it a point to stare all night & made everyone uncomfortable, and she waited until they were alone to get TEA- not because she was â€śblindsidedâ€ť, she wanted to know the â€śwhyâ€ť for gossip reasons. Because there is no real reason she needs to know this manâ€™s business she is not close to. Its so obvious by how rude she was.
OP stated their relationship between the friend & family, thats the information that needs to be shared that was shared. Do you go around telling your friendsâ€™ intimate business about all the scars they have? The idea is silly af.
OP couldâ€™ve said something better than what he did but still NTA, and he was right to say he didnâ€™t feel like he had to warn her bc he expected her to treat him like a human being.