The fact of the matter is still that pregnancy happens in the womans body. If it was the other way around men would have the right to decide. I think a lot of woman would be happier with that arrangement aswel. But I digress.

I agree that OP being in son's life would not have been good. It would have traumatized him more I reckon. But nowhere am I seeing that what he payed was a normal rate of child support or just a number they came up with. Was it enough to support the child and safe for college? I reckon it wasn't because he needed to sometimes buy groceries or presents. He is totally allowed to not be present in his childs life. That is his choice. Good on him for doing what is best for himself. But acting like paying child support for 18 years and then tell them "don't give a shit about your thirtiary education because it is not my problem since you are 18" is a dick move. He clearly had more money than the mother and could have set aside something extra each month to make sure his child had a good start in life. I never said he was a bad person. I said he was a bum for doing the bare fucking minimum and not a step more for a child he helped create.