UPDATE;

Thank you everyone for all of the advice and inputs, I really appreciate it. Thank you to those who reached out to me personally. As many people suggested, I told my husband we need to have a serious talk. Some people guessed it, he was uncomfortable changing someone else’s daughter. He apologized profusely for acting like an ass and for not communicating that with me. We have agreed to compromise on how we will handle the responsibilities if we ever watch her again. I'll do the diaper changes, showering, dressing etc. and he will be responsible for all else. He said he won't have any problems if it is our children, he just didn't know how to tell me about the discomfort of changing his niece.

His brother owns a construction company and on Saturday he was helping him on a job for some quick cash. He said when he came home, he was exhausted and "Hangry". Which is why he asked me to make him something to eat. We talked and I told him he needs to do better with his communication and we have started couples therapy.

To answer some questions, This is the first time something like this happened, he is very hands on with everything. I do most of the cooking, but he always does the cleaning afterwards.

Why did I bring him his plate? It's something we've always done. when I cook, I fix him a plate and vice versa.

we obviously have a long way to go, but so far therapy sessions are going good. Thank you everyone.