Am I being Bullied at Work?

So someone who got you the job needed some details from you to do their job and had then jumped through the hoops for you to make it official and OK for you to be obligated to do so.

She tried calling you multiple times and instead of being professional and speaking to her, you ignored her.

When she couldn't get you to give her information she then emailed you as it was her last resort to get you to hand over whatever information it was.

Then you write an email back to everyone to try and take a swipe at her (I don't know how you thought this would be a positive move) and confirm that she had requested multiple times for the information that I'm hoping you sent with this snide email.

So, my take on this is that you were being purposely difficult as you couldn't be bothered doing what she asked. Citing a technicality to stop her getting the information.

Then once she has the pertinent permissions for whatever it is, you still don't bother to get it to her. Forcing her to send the dreaded CC'd email to fire a rocket up your arse and make you do your job.

Everyone will know what you did. They will all wonder why the fuck you did it. They will not want to bother becoming your friend as you have proven you will be a nasty piece of work to even those who get you the job and then for only doing their job.

You tried to get the person who got you the job in trouble.

Your name is mud. Don't expect anyone to do you any favours and don't expect anyone to want to be friends with you when they see how you treat them.

Work isn't the school yard. People judge you on how you operate and your competency, not how pretty or what sports you do. Depending on what industry you're in you could have done some serious damage to your career progression. Those graduates above you will continue to be above you and the ones who help you get that next step up.

It sounds like you'd do well to apologise to Sally, get back on her good side and hope the others do too. Make up whatever bullshit you have to, but own it and don't try and minimise shit by saying she was nagging you, or should not have sent the email (as we both know she tried other ways to get the info from you).

/r/sydney Thread Parent