Fucking this. This so much! My husband does this shit to me too. He’ll say things like “I’m helping you” when he does things like the dishes. But that assumes that the dishes are MY responsibility but no. You are a part of this household too. That’s just a part of life. Not help. Or he’ll say it’s sad for me that you don’t notice the things that I do for you. I’m noticing the things you do sir, it’s just that the things you DON’T do are so glaringly obvious that it’s hard for me not to ask for help. I’m literally telling you I’m drowning and your response is to shit on me and make me feel worse? I’m going to give you advice that I myself should follow. Seek out therapy. Both for you and for your marriage. I mean joint couples counseling.