Long text but a lot of info can be helpful to many NRIs
Two of them with European girls (lets name them Clara and Morgane both of them a good 8/10, don’t like rating but for the sake of context). I would rate myself a 6/10 when I met Clara and an easy 7.5/10 when I met Morgane. I’ll share story about Clara.
Before relationship and context – I was a stereotyped guy who would believe it is hard for Indians to do good with Europeans (especially central ones). Before meeting her I was in a long dry spell after I broke up with my south asian gf. I became pretty frustrated about not getting laid despite me attending many parties. One day I realized that there is certainly something wrong with me that I’d never get the cake, so I decided to stop perusing girls until I would be ready (planned some self-improvement stuff like working out etc)
Getting into relationship – We met in a picnic just the day after I made decision not to pursue girls. I randomly met her with another girl and had attention of both for good 4 hours (I try to be humorous and I was natural myself since I didn’t care how they judge me). At the end of the picnic Clara took my number and she called me at the end of the evening (it surprised me but didn’t care as I’d consider myself not ready). A week later I invited her to my party (no contact in between) and she showed up. Again, I didn’t flirt with her but just a little chat (she was too beautiful for me and I could never imagine attraction from her side). At the second half of the party we went to a club where she got a bit drunk and at some point she overtly asked me to kiss her. I was shocked but jumped on her anyway considering it a god damn lifetime opportunity. In the morning, we went to my place.
Relationship- She started to learn Hindi soon into the relationship which didn’t please me too much as it sounded ‘overeager’ to me. I was lowly invested into her because I thought she could not totally satisfy me intellectually. Time passed by with ups and down and she made me fall in love with her but at the same time she suffered a lot of indifference from my part. I learnt a lot about real European life with her.
Breakup – By the time I fell in love with her (in about a year) she had decided that she could not handle my indifference anymore and she dumped me. I got back to her after our breakup confessing my love for her, we got back together again for 2 months but she was not the same person anymore. We mutually decided to quit each other.
Lessons learnt –
* Being an Indian in west is not really a disadvantage. It does mean a lot of rejection though but that is only because you polarize women faster (distinguishing women who may be interested in you).
* We live in a stereotyped world – Act opposite to stereotypes, don’t be narrow minded, be more playful and extrovert because Indians are stereotyped to be orthodox and geeky. And of course, please don’t rape.
* Women are equally attracted to men who they think have the ‘potential’ to those who are already there.
* Be natural and don’t give fuck how others judge you (especially beautiful girls) else it will impact your genuine behavior.