Sooo my narc used to use my trauma against me to manipulate me and control me. i used to end up using these sentences because literally all we did was fight and it was SO frustrating. For example, whenever we used to argue, if it didn’t go her way, he’d threaten to leave me. Initially it worked and he’d start packing her bags, sending me into a tailspin (hello, abandonment issues). Eventually she did this so often that i would literally roll my eyes and be like “ok, here we go again”. Eventually she realized that this didn’t work. I definitely grey rocked her without even knowing what it was. I would accuse her so often of cheating, but she would conclude that it was me going “you’re imagining things”, “you have issues”, “you’re upset over nothing”. I was referred to a software expert who helped me clone his phone and laptop from which i got evidence of her cheating and I plan to seek for a divorce really soon. Are you doubting your partner or feels like he or she is cheating, follow him on instagram coding name bensonclement5