I have no idea of your dynamics who is who both are guilty. From my perspective as stay home mom. I cared for our children its work, I wasn't paid I have no savings no retirement and most importantly I have no job skills. I can see why she is doing tik tok - put yourself in her shoes she was out of the job market for 15 years she is in her mid 30s - it is scary, you feel like this is an impossible thing. I stoped counting how many reject letters I had. I'm on the brink of divorce but I know for sure if my husband will leave me homeless - my kids will never talk or see him again. Not because I told them so, simply because I'm their mother and maybe I'm the empath in the marriage and my husband is a manipulative narcissist. It won't even hurt him, we know he doesn't care.