why are you single?

Girls don't tend to find guys with Aspergers very attractive or sexy. I'm pretty high functioning compared to others with it but I still exhibit enough of the effects to damage my chances of having a true relationship. First of all it's really hard to try to explain to someone that you have Aspergers without them altering their opinion of you or treating you differently. There's nothing that kills your "attractiveness" more than trying to explain that you have a form of autism. You go from "normal average Joe" to "here let me cut your food for you." The worst part is I truly want nothing more than a long-term, be-yourself kind of relationship. I've dated before and I even had a relationship that lasted about a month but she couldn't get over the thought of dating someone with "a disease." That really destroyed my self-image. I haven't been on a date in eighteen months because my confidence was damaged by her and I couldn't bring myself to approach women. I would over think EVERYTHING and I wouldn't know how to keep the conversation going. Adding insult to injury my closest friends (about four of them) are total womanizers. Dating women, having sex with women, going through them like they were nothing. I sit there and hear all the stories; "who got the best blowjob last night?", "who had sex with the most women last week?" "who got the most nudes from women on tinder?" It's truly infuriating, they treat women like shit, fuck them, use them, then drop them like it was nothing. Meanwhile in 20 years of life I'm still the only virgin of my friends and all I want is that one girl.

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