<Basically - as, I assume, a dude, you tend to be pretty welcome most places you'd want to be.

I'm going to ignore this because defending myself will not make my point. Think about this and ask why it's ok for you to assume my life is easy. I'm not sure it's ok for you to generalize and marginalize my experience because of what others have done to you.

As to why it's ok for people to go out of there way to be offended by a pleasant "Thanks Guys!". "Thanks Guys!" Is culturally and traditionally considered a not only acceptable response but a generally pleasant one as well. I can see how the fact that it is an acceptable and generally pleasant response is wrong, really trust me, I /understand/ the spirit of the CoC.

The person discussing boyfriend and girlfriend has a specific life experience, that experience is the sum of their existence on this rock and it is absolutely 100% mathematically equal to every other instance of existence on this rock. If one side want's to change how people speak then the otherside already understands that 1) There is a problem with how we treat eachother today, and 2) That people are not infallible, and that they can be taught, and that they are often willing to comply with your wishes simply because another human being asked them too. Everybody has experienced discrimination, I'm not about to go into a long song and dance about how my life is worse than yours because it's not. Our experiences are 100% mathematically equal, 100% valid. If somebody decides to make the channels their e-home and you find the way they talk offense educate them with kindness, remind them of the other sexes, tell them that we have some higher standards for communicating and if that doesn't work the mods are absolutely willing to step in with a warning or a kick.

There is no moderation problem here. The problem is when somebody is coming through to ask a question and they are not aware of the degree to which we police ourselves. They get the help because it's hard to commit a faux pas when you're asking a question, but when it comes time to thank those involved for their help, a moment of gratitude and respect for the assistance they've received they're greeted with "Not everybody here is a guy". These are one off offenses that and I will stress this: a /very/ minority number of individuals take that opportunity to taint what would otherwise be a harmless and ultimately productive interaction for humanity.

I understand that the fact that "Thanks guys!" is an accepted form of thanking everybody is a problem. I accept this to be true. I accept that the fact that people do not ornately understand this fact to be true a problem, it means it's not being taught when we're children. Activism is very important to change this opinion but you're being active because you understand there's a problem, so greet that problem with love when somebody is trying to show you some love.

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