Personally, I'm convinced that at least 90% of gender politics ultimately comes down to differences in ethical fundamentals. What I think happens is that you have a group of people who, in principle, share one of the core values, at least nominally ("gender equality"), but they individually parse it very differently in function of their other core values and how they relate to one another. Whenever I end up discussing gender politics with somebody off Reddit, and a discussion gets moderately "serious", we inevitably end up discussing our core values, which one overrides another in given domain of application and on what principle etc. We end up having, essentially, a completely sex-blind discussion of the dynamics between the sexes, since we boil it all down to much more general questions, and try to see how we ethically conceptualize those.

I agree that nobody overthinks this in the actual everyday life, though. But then again, who overthinks any of the gender politics we discuss here as our time-killer? :p