On one hand, she sounds a bit intense. You never initiating sex is definitely out there- though you mention that she says it triggers her. Is there a particular reason behind this (like was she sexually assaulted)?

On the other hand, why in the world are you using quotation marks for stuff she says? The weird feminist does not require those. Neither does soap box. It comes off really oddly. Every movement can be taken to an extreme, of course, but the fact is that many women still do get a lot of nonsense from the world and it's understandable to want that to stop. And, asking someone when they'll wear something for you is not necessarily polite, even if you meant it as a joke. Maybe it's just a quirk of your writing and she really is just on the far end of the continuum, but it does raise some questions.

It sounds like you need to seriously examine both her beliefs and yours. Do you actually respect her views- in actions as well as words? If not, why? Do you feel respected? Do you feel you have compatible values? Disagreeing on something that seems pretty fundamental to her is probably not a great sign. After you reflect on these things, perhaps you'll have a better sense of where to go from here.