I used to take his depression personally because my own self-esteem was low. One time he stopped talking to me for a week and I assumed we'd broken up and he just lacked the energy to finish it. I definitely took a more fatalistic view of life when I was younger so I finally decided to end the relationship because we were both depressives who were coldly unsympathetic when the other was down. I might have been prepared to work at things if he'd ever said he wanted to be with me for the long term, but we just seemed to be drifting along out of habit.

I used to take his depression personally because my own self-esteem was low. One time he stopped talking to me for a week and I assumed we'd broken up and he just lacked the energy to finish it. I definitely took a more fatalistic view of life when I was younger so I finally decided to end the relationship because we were both depressives who were coldly unsympathetic when the other was down. I might have been prepared to work at things if he'd ever said he wanted to be with me for the long term, but we just seemed to be drifting along out of habit.

She also took it personally. She said it made her feel like she wasn't attractive, or I didn't like her, or she wasn't sexy. I told her over and over that it had nothing to do with her, it was about how shitty I felt.

In hindsight I should have sought treatment because I've suffered from depression all my life and there's a history of it in my family. The ironic thing is that I didn't realize I was depressed because, aside from the work stress, everything in my life was going perfectly for the first time in forever. I thought I was just "stressed out from work" and didn't realize that I felt that way practically every day.