there's two camps posting here and when I came on, you guys had top spot by far and it requires a bit of digging to find the other view.

let's look at some facts. at my last check, the OP has THIS one post (ever), zero replies, no mention of marriage, kids or love, and r/sex is significantly different from r/relationships

a bit off base, but I'd like to add, they're young and he began the relationship "slim" and now he's put on "A LOT" to the point that he's struggling to maintain in bed, jeez. it's one thing to get old and chubby together, but this, this is a reasonable dating deal breaker.

at this I point think it's more than fair to say either: yes she's

OP is asking for advice because she wants to stay with the guy.

or she feels guilty to discover that physical attraction is or can be a deal breaker for her, and she just wants to here that at minimum she's not being unreasonable, and likely that she's not shallow

she literally posted to r/sex asking what she should do about permitting sex that she does not want.

if your camp is wrong, you've projected a pretty piece of fiction with a shiny gold star. but tbt, you guys are trying to guilt/adding to her guilt, hoping she'd change/save someone because that makes sense to y'all.

if I'm wrong then she doesn't even connect to what I'm saying and really she has to do a bit of digging to find my camp because no one else is standing up to you guys.

you hit the nail with

Kind of weird projecting going on here?

I'm pretty sure /u/deadfisher replied to me that his position is of

treating people the way I'd like to be treated

there it is. your camp is projecting as the OP's boyfriend, the one being "treated" by the OP.

I say, speak to the OP's post. nothing more, nothing less.