You’re totally justified in cutting them off. I don’t deal with drunks either, especially drunks who are in denial.

I know everyone says therapy for every little thing, but I saw a therapist for a short time (maybe 6 months?) and that honestly did wonders for me. I had to process what was basically grief so I could feel ok about cutting out my dad’s side of my family and mostly move on. Once she made me realize I was stuck in grief/mourning, I started to heal and move forward.

My therapist was an idiot so I couldn’t imagine what an actually decent therapist could do for their clients, I bet that’s wonderful.

If you don’t wanna (or can’t) do therapy I get it. Just know that you’re not wrong here. Drunks can be a really toxic presence, especially for kids. I grew up somewhat neglected, like I never really knew if I’d get dinner etc, and used as an ‘involuntary therapist’ for my dad because he refused to sort himself out and get help. I’m pretty damaged by that type of behavior and I won’t allow drunks around my kids due to my experience.