I would never do that like your ex. I just can't settle for less and that is how I am. Anyway, I'm sorry to hear the split has been difficult on you and her. :/

I'd like to be clarified...

We’ve met up several times over the years and have slept together quite a few of those times.

Did she cheat on her husband with you? If so... Honestly, that is not fair to him. I mean she knew he would never cheat on her because she has been cheated on before so she should understand that cheating is horrible. That's why I'll never settle with someone if I still hope that another guy got me back because it will hurt him. I just put myself in their shoes and I know I wouldn't like it.