I've had a couple early miscarriages, and they're surprisingly hard on the body. There's a lot going on with hormones and stuff that changes with a loss. I was surprised by the number of physical changes (and the fatigue and cramping) that came with each loss. And that's even setting aside the huge, and completely appropriate, emotional toll that it takes. I think it'd be incredibly hard to go to a wedding right after suffering a loss like that.

And early pregnancy is (at least for many of us!) also really hard! The nausea, the exhaustion, the hormones and emotions. OMG even the gas pain (I can't be the only one?). All of it without being able to really tell people what's going on (especially if you're pregnant in a context of previous losses or struggling to get pregnant); like, it's fine to share if you want to, but it can feel uncomfortable to give that much personal info to others early in a pregnancy.

It's incredible that you're going through both of these things (a loss and a continuing early pregnancy) at once. Please take care of yourself. If your friend is any kind of friend at all, just saying "I have a serious medical issue right now and can't attend" should be enough. I'm really sorry for your loss, and I'm wishing the very best for you on your pregnancy!!!