Finding more and more evidence showing what I’ve always feared. Asian men are not considered desirable.

as a (half) Asian like you, used to have this mindset in my early half of 20s. Same as you, reading too much in to statistics (Statistics about Interracial marriage in USA, dating site statistics etc), cherry picking data. (I'm from Scandinavia so the situation probably even worse than US.)

Then I moved to Asia (Japan) and my dating prospect dramatically increased, fueling my already existing presumption about this.

Then I moved back to Scandinavia and my dating prospect was still the same (good).

This made me realize that it wasn't race but just that early 20s for me was a shy, badly dressed, broke-ass engineering student with anxieties; and around the time I moved to Asia I was a more chill/self confident engineer+researcher and simply more attractive.

So maybe one day you'll see the same thing, but I sure as hell wouldn't have been convinced by anonymous reddit dude when I was so disillusioned. You'll keep looking for statistics & anecdata to confirm your belief until you feel completely hopeless and the world is rigged against you, and you stop taking any meaningful action.

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