I think that for some, as it was with me, the volume of these interaction. Think about if you are out at a bar or something and you've got 50 people lined up to try to catch your attention. There is an inherent fatigue that sets in. And at least, in person, you know if there is a physical attraction. It is so hard to tell from self-selected photos of someone if it represents them as a person well. I get exhausted from messaging back and forth (I've learned to match less so I can truly lean in). I just want to meet as soon as it is comfortable and see if there is something really there. And I feel like a shithead when I am not feeling it and unmatch, because I'm empathetic. And I get my feelings hurt when someone randomly unmatches me, because of my ego. Rejection stings.

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But I've learned this is just online dating. It is not that important in the grand scheme. Treat it like you are out at bar and you're chatting people up. Some are going to vibe, most aren't.