I felt the exact same way before I got married. My husband and I hate attention tho, so we would have been happy just signing a marriage certificate. We are both quiet, keep to ourselves, and for me I have terrible anxiety. I was never that girl who had their wedding planned since they were 10. I wouldnt have cared if I didnt have a wedding.

When we got engaged and my mother heard we weren't making a big deal, she was horrified and did the whole "What would everyone think!??" She did nothing but guilt us into everything we didnt want. Oh and I might add my parents paid for nothing so she was only interested in the traditions that suited her. I was VERY stupid in thinking its easier to do what she wants rather than hear her constant complaining. I was miserable the entire time, not that she cared. So many regrets there but I digress.

We managed to escape the engagement party but I had the bridal shower, traditional wedding and later on, the baby shower since she took it upon herself to organise them. I hated every minute of it. The showers felt forced and unnatural to me. I did not enjoy the silly games I had to play, and even tho I said pls dont buy presents as we have everything, nobody listened so I had to sit there unwrapping them in front of everyone. I wanted to run far, far away.

Moral of the story.. pls learn from my mistakes lol