I know exactly how you feel. There was a friend I used to talk to who was constantly hating on himself and how he had to became a slave to whatever his parents wished for. He was gay but he has strict Indian parents so he said he’ll go through an arranged marriage just to make them happy. He’s here in New York he’s not in a place where he needs to do this because his life is at risk. I mean I tried to get this guy’s spirits up and guide him to seeing that he has self worth because I can see how growing up with those kind of parents can make you feel worthless. No this guy was just so happy wallowing in his sadness he took no advice from me, and made excuses for options I presented for him (like getting a therapist), and even starting to live on his own since he was 22 and his parents sounded over bearing. He had an excuse for everything and he didn’t want help. I think this guy really just wanted to play the victim and get the pity for attention. I’m not that kinda guy to sit there and give that. I’m definitely a “grab life by the balls and make it your damn bitch, you have more power than you think.” I’m there to support people who want to change of course, but there is a difference between being hurt and wanting to be better and just loving the victim role. Those people are toxic and exhausting.