I used to have this problem a lot. Like literally every date I went on. Then I started reading a little bit about seduction, and attraction, and how to basically manipulate women.

A lot of it is absurd, but there are are some great techniques I've used, and my dating life has been DRAMATICALLY better. My biggest hurdle was getting a girl to go from "having a good time" to "I want to be with this guy", and no matter how many great jokes I made, how polite I was, or how assertive I was, nothing seemed to matter. Then I started 'escalating' , and it was like night and day.

A lot of the seduction and attraction stuff is just garbage. It's manipulation and mind games, but one thing those teachings reinforce is escalation. Find a way to get the conversation sexual. No matter how well it's going, if it's not sexual, then you're losing out on a chance to get o that next level, or in most cases just a 2nd date.

What I realized was, I was losing out anyway. What did I have to lose by being a bit overtly sexual, or maybe stepping up the touch until she's comfortable with me going in for a kiss? Women usually don't do the kissing, so as a guy on a date, it benefits you to show her your interest as plainly as possible. Start with a little comment about how she turns you on, get a little closer to her, figure out a way to non-aggressively get some kind of physical contact with her, then build on that.

You'd be amazed how easy it really is. Usually if a girl is laughing at your jokes (especially the bad ones), and isn't making excuses to leave the siutuation, she's having a good time. Go ahead and bring some physical contact into the dates, and I bet you'll see you start to get more 2nd, and 3rd, and 4th dates.

Think of it this way: Why go backwards? Keep pushing forward. If she lets you touch her forearm, then your next goal should be the small of her back. From the back maybe the butt, or maybe an arm around her hips. Once you're close enough physically, the kiss just kind of happens.