Well a lot of my pickup game is predicated on meeting women in bars. I’m a 220 lb muscular black man with a deep voice, but I date women of literally every race (last woman I dated was from Turkmenistan, and she was a goddess). And I just dont feel comfortable approaching most women outside of social settings because of the potential intimidation factor (although few women actually find me to be intimidating when they speak to me). I also need to take some of the bass out of my voice when I’m talking to women to make them feel more comfortable
So with that being said, I typically like to hang out by the actual bar, so that women naturally come into my space and the approach is more natural, and pickup lines come easier (non sexual compliments, asking women about their drinking preferences, etc.). Then once I’ve initiated an exchange, I try not to face the woman directly. I stay mostly facing the bar and away from the woman, at an angle of 45-90 degrees, and I alternate turning my head towards her to show I’m listening, and then back towards the bar. This gives them the impression that you’re generally aloof and unimpressed by female attention. But your conversation with them needs to show emotional intelligence, empathy, and wit. Dont be afraid to laugh at a woman when she says something ridiculous, or to nod in understanding when shes clearly opening up and making herself vulnerable. This is the emotional fluidity that I believe Dean is referring to, and its the ethical way to implement the push/pull method many pickup artists swear by. And calmness is paramount. Women LOVE men who are calm. If you do these things, eventually women are going to start touching you unnecessarily to feel closer to you as they open up. And once this happens, you just have to not mess it up, and learn how to escalate, which I’m actually still working and improving on tbh
But also, remember that not every woman you meet is going to be romantically interested. But platonic, flirty relationships with attractive women will get you a ridiculous amount of female attention. So they are still very useful