She told me she was in a long distance relationship. Three months later we started dating, she told me she ended it because the guy actually had a girlfriend in his hometown. At the beginning she was quite cold and unavailable, but after two weeks she started texting me first, planning dates, and hugging me long and tight. Some say it's a mistake, but I was always available for her because I really enjoyed the time we spent together, I started caring about her and my job allows me to be available. She seemed really into me, but as soon as she started reaching out to me more and more she also felt the need to tell me she feels like we're rushing and she doesn't want to get physical too soon and regret it. So let's take things slow and develop a strong connection. Whatever bullshit this was, I accepted to take our time.
After one month, she suddenly disappeared an entire weekend. She did contact me, I replied, but took hours for her to reply back. I found out she spent the weekend with her ex. So when she returned I confronted her, and stopped contacting her. We haven't talked for four days, then she sent me a random text. I replied but didn't continue the conversation. Then on Friday night at 11PM she sends me another random text. When I say random text, it's not a "how are you", but just random stuff she was thinking about or remembered about. On Saturday she sends me a photo with a cappuccino in my coffeeshop (I own a coffeeshop) and said, I thought you are here.
Tuesday she posted a photo on Instagram, she had about 600 likes. I liked her photo, and half an hour later, she texted me "oh, you liked my photo". I just replied "oh, you noticed I liked your photo". She tried to continue the conversation but I didn't reply. Wednesday she wanted to go out to eat after work. I refused. Two days later, I think she stalked me, she was right in front of the coffeeshop looking through the window, and texted me, let's drink a coffee. I had to accept, what else could I have done? She tried suggesting we should go to a movie next week.
That was yesterday. Today I stumbled upon her and her boyfriends car parked at a hotel. I was going to have late dinner and it's the hotel restaurant is the only place open so late. As I said, the guy is from another town.
I don't believe he is actually her ex. It's the second time in two weeks when I find out they are sleeping together. If I stopped initiating any conversation or dates, and she has a BF, why is she still contacting me? I will stop even reading her texts, I won't block her, but it's not worth wasting my time anymore.
But as a more curious person, I need an opinion. What is this girl even thinking? What is going on in her mind? She know I'm looking for a relationship. Do I really look like such a fool in her eyes that she thinks she can just get attention from me while her BF is coming every now and then and fuck? There are so many guys who would date her and that she could easily gold dig, why waste my time? She has absolutely nothing to earn from dating me.