I don't know why and it drives me crazy too! I think a lot of women on dating apps are maybe, "bi in theory", but when a girl actually hits on them they're like ehhhhh.... IDK

I think actual lesbians are less likely to do this, but some lesbians are still wary of dating a bi girl like me because they're worried she's not serious and I kind of get that to some extent, although it's not entirely fair.

The amount of times I've matched with a girl and then she's just flaked or ghosted or was impossible to pin down for an actual date time is... a lot. I mean, guys do this too, but it does seem to happen more with women. I guess they just usually have more options, and a lot of them are just, "experimenting". I feel your pain.