oh OP i have been in your situation too! i had an ex who i was madly in love with when i was in high school. we were together for two years but we cut things off because we were at different points in our lives and our goals just didn’t align anymore. i always thought about him and missed him but i eventually just thought he was the one that got away. until fast forward 5 years and he reaches out to me and we started dating again. problem was he was exactly as i had left him 5 years ago!

he was working the same job that he hated, still living with parents and hanging out with the same friends! mind you at this point he was 24 and i was 22, i had already bought an apartment and was working my dream job! once again we had to split because i just felt like i was light years ahead of him and our values and goals didn’t align!

sometimes i wish i never got back with him as it spoilt my lovely memories of him knowing that he was just happy plodding along not really aspiring to anything living in the same crappy town, he seemed happy enough in his life but it seemed strange to me that someone just didn’t evolve or grow up when i had done so much already.

so perhaps OP that is what is happening to you, you’re turned off by her lack of motivation and not having grown up or moved out of your home town. maybe she’s just a home body who is content in her life and you have aspirations and goals bigger than hers and in a weird kind of way perhaps you have what i call the ick, it’s nothing she’s done wrong but there’s just something not sitting right with you. so best break it off before she gets too invested and leave her in the past