I think that's generalizing, it's so dependent on both of the individuals involved.

I certainly don't speak for all SBs, but I am not after the highest amount. However- I keep saying this and maybe there should be a way I can just change my flair to say married in her 40s- I am older so it might not be as true with younger SBs or even other older ones- but I, myself, look at the whole package, not just the money.

We all do this for different reasons. I can't imagine sleeping with someone I can't stomach for 10,000, truly. But someone else may prefer to do that once and not have to worry about money so much. And that's fine too.

And yes, I do want to be careful because it is true some men might try to use this argument to "shame" someone to take lower than she wants.

I like being in a relationship where it's not based on amounts, we give what we can because we want to.

And yes, I am not in a relationship right now- so it's not working very well for me at the moment- but I just can't do it if I don't like the whole package.