I mean, I see the meme about "if you tell me to do something I was about to do, I am 1000% less likely to do it" being thrown around; but when it comes to others, it's ok if you do it?
Or perhaps they worry that the sort of situation they're reminding me to do will happen more in the future, IF they don't remind me and reinforce the point now. Classically, men have a word for this. It's called nagging. Has it, ever, in the history of partnerships between men and women... has it EVER worked?
I can understand maybe once or twice, to check a text. Hell, I'll even pause if it's family--sometimes the people closest to us don't understand that we're busy. But if it's something I'm doing specifically for you, it's just plain rude as hell.
Now, let's say we've come to an understanding, and for whatever reason I am ok with you doing this. If and when I choose to pick up MY device, you get NO grounds to get annoyed. This hypocritical response continually conFOUNDS me.
Sure, I COULD trust you. But my imagination won't let me. I sit there and think of all the terrible things it could be--because no, I don't trust your judgement of what you think my parameters for "not important" are.
You're telling me, it's NEVER crossed your mind that other women might say the same thing? And another thing, NOBODY is like anyone else. Not fully, anyway.
I mean, socially speaking, this is for pretty much anyone. Bodies are bodies, and they're gonna do some gross or annoying stuff. No need to put social pressures on these sorts of things. Like farting during dates. Good god, there are entire episodes surrounding this particular phenomenon (like that one episode in "How I Met Your Mother", with Barney just standing and smiling on the balcony for what seems like no reason).