You're assuming that these men exist and are common. The issue is they aren't.

IRL my male friends fall into the following groups: Happy with their jobs and hobbies but can't find a gf (clueless with women). Awkward nerd who found a GF/wife but she treats him like shit (settled for whoever he could find, because clueless with women). Guys who are unhappy in general. Guys who are happy and dating here and there but overall struggling with women. Guys who are happy with careers and dating but just banging their 80,000 Tinder matches. Guys who have good jobs and are just good looking and wound up in relationships, but they don't really know what they're doing either (it just came to them).

None of them really know what they're doing. Based on my exposure, my options are to be born with good genes and be hot, be unhappy, or give up on women and learn to be happy that way (essentially MGTOW). There are just no good role models.

Where should men find good role models?