Just get us a Sleep Number bed And you won't have to worry about which softness or which firmness because with sleep number both people can adjust their softness or firmness level 247. Plus they're all smart beds that monitor your vitals and your movements and makes small adjustments to keep you molded all night. So you're always aligned. And you don't toss and turn in your sleep and sleep much deeper and of much higher quality. I work for Sleep Number, obviously, and have 2 family member vouchers left over, from our Annual Employee Family Event. They are for 50% off any "Innovation series"be, 30% off any "Performance Series model" and 30% off any adjustsble smart base to go with the bed. So 80% in total savings on a set. You can DM me here and if interested in a quote, give you my work cell or Store phone to call me.I can consult on which model may be right for you based on some questions. Ive been doing this a long time and 90% of time, bed I recomend based on issues and budget, customers end up very satisfied. However, We have No-Obligation Booking, meaning you can order the bed over the phone with no money down if you're financing and qualify for total amount, which most do (you dont get a bill until within 30 days after you have the bed)and if you want, you can then go to a sleep number store at your leisure and try it out, and if you need to alter the ticket, change the model etc, no prob . You can even cancel it as long as it's 48 hours before your delivery date.. You also get a 100 night trial on all mattresses, risk free.