I had two children. I want you to be as free to not have children as I was to have them.
The EvoDevo types will rag on you as denying your true being, either siring or birthing kids, but it's horseshit. People who don't have kids are often making it easier for the rest of us by taking up demanding professions, and yer helpin' the herd ANYWAY just by existing, whether or not you have bebbies.
Hope you find the right things to say and do to keep things cool in the family.