Advice here: If you want to make friends, stop trying to make friends.

What do I mean by that??

First, you need to understand that you're not the center of the world. You really don't matter to 99.9999999% of people. Now that sounds pretty harsh, but it's true. People tend to gravitate to people that can provide them with something. Do you really provide anyone with anything while you're on drugs?? Probably not anything substantial.. Now, I'm not saying "Don't do DRUGS" because, I fuck with drugs, and I love them. The more I try drugs the more i realized I was completely lied to as a child. TBH, my dumbass can't even get addicted to my ADHD medicine and I continue to suck and taking it every day, even though it turns my day completely around, so talk about a total failure there.. Anyway, back on track. Here's the secret that nobody tells you. It's all about Hobbies.

That's right!! Get a hobby that you're comfortable doing alone and friends will generally come. Make it something you're confident in and focus on talking about the hobby rather than talking about anything friendship related. Friendship comes with time.

Why a hobby?
1. People like having people to do an activity with.
2. when you pick a specific hobby and do it in PUBLIC, you suddenly niche down and instead of you trying to find people that you probably have nothing in common with and never will. People will come find you, and essentially insert themselves into your life. Essentially, if they want to do that activity, they will probably contact you.
BUT u/Alone-Community-279 they have sooo many other friends. DUH, that's why you niche down. Mr. Perfect might have tons and tons of friends, but does he have tons of friends in your specific activity. Think about it.

1. Social anxiety sucks.. and doing things in public is sometimes rough. Well, yes, it is. There is nothing fun about it, but there are ways to relieve the pressure. I smoke weed and take my dog for a walk.. Why weed and a dog? Well, my dog doesn't judge me when I'm high af and you can almost immediately break and contact/conversation barrier with one. Why?? People fucking love animals, and they should because they are amazing, and if I had $200,000 right now, I'd buy donate most of it to helping people with anxiety & depression have better access to quality dogs for low cost because it legit would have been easier for me to have a kid than it was to get a dog. Anyway, people talk to my dog. He does all the work and I get to focus on my dogs behavior rather than if I'm doing the right thing around someone else. Tricking my brain to ignore the excitement and anxiety of a potential new friend.
   

Don't have a dog and can't afford one? yeah, they are expensive and take a lot of responsibility. In the world of online, you can make friends almost anywhere. Make some hobby specific posts on social media and see if someone bites. You never know where it will lead. When facing something with low probability, take a lot of chances and focus all your time on the winners.
You're fishing in a sense. You're casting a wide net with your hobby and trying to funnel down anyone that sees you into a new group of potential friends.

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1. The biggest part about the hobby is it solves the issue of what to do next. INVITE THEM TO DO YOUR HOBBY WITH YOU! Maybe they are better than you and can teach you some new stuff, or maybe they are worse and you can show them how cool your favorite shit is. ALWAYS FOCUS ON THE HOBBY and it will lead you as far as what to say or do next.