Well for people I'm attracted to, I get a sense of kink for myself out of whatever they're saying. Being as touch deprived as I make myself I'll look them in the eyes, from their left eye, to their right eye, left eye, right eye, lips, cheeks, forehead and back to they eyes etc. and go through my own imagination a bit. "Mm hm, yeah.. right? Uh huh... mmmmm" I actually enjoy looking people I like in the eyes, (*Fap noises intensify *Ffpt *ffpt *ffpt) as long as it's not creepy. They seem to become self conscious themselves sometimes. Be a little weird sometimes and let your weirdness out, people should enjoy you being open about weirdness, which doesn't always even have to be context related. Like I'll be making fart noises around people that I don't know well and be like "Oh shit, gonna need me a new pair". Somewhere in those months they've obviously come to some sort of understanding and most of them are nice and we all know how to work things now. Although I'm still a completely anxious person who avoids any closer relationships.