How would one come out as gay to a homophobic family member?

But there really are none. I have a friend/former coworker who I didn't know was gay for the first 3 years I knew him. Another coworker didn't find out for the first 5 years of working together that he was gay, and it was only because I mentioned helping him and his bf move in to their new place. Likewise, I have had friends who didn't even realize I was bisexual for the first few years of our friendship. Hell, I have friends who still don't know. I see no reason to tell them. I don't define my life by my sexuality, and it's not a requirement of the people I hang with that they be confirmed LGBT-pro people.

There were none for you, and I'm really happy that's the case, but does that mean there are none for anybody? What about a teen in rural Alabama? The son of a devout Mormon family in Utah? Or a gay Iranian?

You generalize off your own experience. With such a myopic view, I understand why you have the attitude that you do.

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