How'd your parents fuck you up?

My dad fucked me up pretty bad. My parents split because he had been lying to my mum for years.. he is a crossdresser.

When they split, I visited him on weekends. The one thing my mum told him not to do, was to dress up in front of me because I was so young. One day, she called me and I was giggling. She asked me what I was giggling about and I said that daddy was dressed like a woman. Now, being so young and not understanding, I'd go to school bragging that my daddy dressed like a woman. I got bullied and came home in tears quite often. In time, I chose to stop seeing him because I was confused.

Now, something i should point out is my dad is an alcoholic. Every time I visited him when I was younger, we'd spend it in the local pub. Him with his beer, me with my panda pop and crisps. When I stopped seeing him, my mum got nightly calls of abuse from him. Always drunk. Always claiming she stopped me seeing him. I even once told him myself that it was my choice. Didn't help. Well one night, he drunkenly called her again.. but this time, he told her that he was going to take me without her knowing. Cue me never wanting to leave my mum's side and this continued for absolute years. Always in fear that he was going to take me. When I started secondary school, I saw a car parked outside that looked the spitting image of my father's. I ran inside the building, crying. Luckily my mum had warned the teachers about my dad's threat.

Years go by.. and one day when I was 16, he messaged me wanting to reconnect. I told him I'd only continue if he owned up to everything he'd done. He didn't. His step daughter then got involved and I got angry. He then sent me a message calling me bitter and this and that.

I haven't seen him since I was a child. I still don't talk to him. And I don't plan to. The last I heard from him was when my daughter was born in 2015. I only gave him details of his granddaughter. Yet, he never kept contact with me. He's messed me up in many ways, and this probably seems ridiculous in writing. But this, this is how my dad truly fucked with my head.

Thank you for reading if you got this far. Was good to get this out.

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