you sound like me. i’m in this exact situation. no matter what i do he says he can’t change because “that’s who he is.” i have a depression/anxiety disorder, so almost nightly i have a panic attack because of him. i’ll sit on facetime and cry my heart out, and he says nothing. he says it’s because “he doesn’t know what to say” but i keep telling him that if i’m in a state like that the only thing i need are words of affirmation. but no, all i get is silence, and if it’s something about his actions he just argues with me and makes it “my fault” i can’t bring myself to leave him, it’s been 1.5 years for us too, and i don’t want to throw all that away. he makes me believe it’s my fault, but when he points out my faults i try my hardest to fix them. with him, he doesn’t try. he never tries for me. i’m sorry i’m getting emotional and i’m just ranting, if you ever want to dm me for support i’m here for you, because i know exactly what you’re going through feels like.