So, I've (26,M) recently gone on two dates with someone (25,F) who got out of a two year plus relationship about 4-5 weeks ago. We went to dinner a week ago, and went for drinks two days ago. I think they've gone really well. No kissing or anything, which doesn't bother me because she mentioned on the first date that she had recently got out of that relationship, and is not looking to get into a relationship.

However, we had a good time, I think we were both nervous, I was chattier than normal due to that, which clued me in to the fact that I'm really into this woman. I think she felt the same. We both babbled a bit, I think revealing too personal info too quickly.

While she mentioned the no relationship bit on the first date, afterwards I confessed over text that I thought she was great, intelligence, witty, etc and I was really into her. But I was torn because I know she trying to find herself, of sorts after, but that I wanted to know if she would go out again, but take it slowly. And she agreed to go out again.

And this went even better than dinner. Midway through she referenced next time we go out we'll have to check out this other bar, so I took that as very encouraging. (FYI we've both paid our own way both times so it's not anything like that).

I'm just going to stay the course, and be myself and flirt lightly but pointedly to maintain that I'm interested romantically as we keep seeing each other.

TL;DR You really are interested in someone, but they're recently single and unsure of whether to enter a relationship. But there's a connection. And mutual attraction. But its extremely hard to discern whether she's shy or aloof. How would you handle it? I haven't been nervous about dates in years, this sucks, haha.