my wife of 6 years whom is 36 last year sometime got depressed and said she didn’t want to be married anymore .then a few months later got caught with a profile looking for another man etc . she ruined Christmas eve for our 4 year old got drunk and passed out , she was on the phone with an ex fling that lives in Florida for a while , then a month later she was contacted by an old neighbor who is 26 etc she lied went out over night to his house , and a few weekends later she said i love you but im not in love with you i don’t want this marriage we need to separate the whole i need to find myself , its about me no one else i want my freedom etc so i leave too go get counseling and the very next day she goes and sleeps with the man 3 times with in the day and morning that she was there didn’t tell me for a whole week , and the only notion i got was the night after she said marriage over i want a divorce , and its been that way for three months now constant no communication , constant ignorance doesn’t want to talk about our relationship we had shows no remorse , or guilt she lost her job lives in a shelter and the thing is our sex life was good she said so many variations as to why she said u were already gone duh you kicked me out , she deep down wanted to do it , then said she knew it wasn’t going to pan out but then got pissed when he said she had way too much going on and that she freaked out when he didn’t answer right away … so now i have no idea what to do she don’t want me or anything and she is an asshole now she doesn’t show anything but anger towards me you cant talk about the affair , you cant talk about the time we had together i know the last year i was verbal and stuff a lot because of her trying to cheat behind my back and she was complaining about the constant disconnect and has not taken any accountability for anything she has done she started this in end of march when she lied and said she was somewhere she wasnt she was at his house cuddling and watching movies since this has happend she started this whole i dont love you and i dont want to be with you act now i know for awhile afterwards she was wearing makeup and going to bars and stuff and hanging out with younger crowd now she does nothing but live in a womans shelter and she has unrealistic goals that she is going to save up for a car ect is this a mid life crisis i hope someday her heart finds her way home